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A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.<br /><br />Mirrors have a very particular function. They reflect the image in front of them. Just as a physical mirror serves as the vehicle to reflection, so do all of the people in our lives.<br /><br />When we see something beautiful such as a flower garden, that garden serves as a reflection. In order to see the beauty in front of us, we must be able to see the beauty inside of ourselves. When we love someone, it's a reflection of loving ourselves. We have often heard things like "I love how I am when I'm with that person." That simply translates into I'm able to love me when I love that other person. Often times, when we meet someone new, we feel as though we “click”. Sometimes it's as if we've known each other for a long time. That feeling can come from sharing similarities.<br /><br />Just as the 'mirror' or other person can be a positive reflection, it is more likely that we'll notice it when it has a negative connotation. For example, it's easy to remember times when we have met someone we're not particularly crazy about. We may have some criticism in our mind about the person. This is especially true when we get to know someone with whom we would rather spend less time.<br /><br />Frequently, when we dislike qualities in other people, ironically, it's usually the mirror that's speaking to us.<br /><br />I began questioning myself further each time I encountered someone that I didn't particularly like. Each time, I asked myself “What is it about that person that I don't like?” And then “Is there something similar in me?”<br /><br />In every instance, I could see a piece of that quality in me, and sometimes I had to really get very introspective. So what did that mean?<br /><br />It means that just as I can get annoyed or disturbed when I notice that aspect in someone else, I better reexamine my qualities and consider making some changes. Even if I'm not willing to make a drastic change, at least I consider how I might modify some of the things that I'm doing.<br /><br />At times we meet someone new and feel distant, disconnected, or disgusted. Although we don't want to believe it and it's not easy or desirable to look further, it can be a great learning lesson to figure out what part of the person is being reflected in you. It's simply just another way to create more self-awareness.<br /><br /><br /><br />一个充满爱心的人生活在一个充满爱心的世界。一个处处与人为敌的人生活在充满战争的世界里。你见过的所有人都是你的镜子。<br /><br />镜子有非常独特的用途。他们反应了他们前面的东西的质量。正如，镜子在生活中的物理作用是作为我们的身躯的映射工具，我们周身的其他人是映射我们生活的生物。<br /><br />当我们看到美丽的东西正如花园的时候，那个花园的美丽本身就是作为一种映射。为了看到我们眼前的美丽，我们必须看到我们内心的美丽。当我们去爱别人的时候，正是对我们自己的爱的映射。当我们常常听到：我喜欢和那个人在一起的感觉。这句话可以这样来理解：当我喜欢那个人的时候，我也能够喜欢自己。当我们认识一些陌生人的时候，我们觉得我们恍然高兴起来，说得就是这种感觉。有时候常常会觉得我们已经相识很久了，这样的感觉来自于我们能够互相欣赏我们共同的优点。<br /><br />正如一面镜子或者说一个人可以当作正面的映射，有时候我们也会发现一些反面的含蓄的意思。举个例子来说吧，我们很容易记住和那些我们不太喜欢人想认识时候的时刻。因为，我们心里对他也许有些不好的评论。当我们觉得我们跟他在一起是浪费时间，其实这很正常。往往的，当我们不喜欢别人的一些习惯，品行时，往往这是一面我们内心的镜子。<br /><br />每次遇到这种情况，我都要更加深入的自问。每次我问，我为什么不喜欢那个人？不喜欢他的什么东西，在我身上是否也有相似的情况呢？每次这样的时候，我都能看清楚我内心的一种不好的喜欢，这是我就会反省自己。这意味着什么呢？<br /><br />这意味着当我对某些人的某些性格不喜欢时，这其实是一个自我检讨的时刻。他能够促使我做出改变。即使，有时候我不喜欢做出改变，至少，我知道以后在做类似的事情的时候应该如何去改进。<br /><br />偶尔的，我们碰到一些我们觉得很疏远的，跟我们无关的，厌恶的人。即使这样，我们不会想得更远。我们不相信这是一次很好的自我教育。我告诉你们，通过这样的教育，我们完全可以通过在别人身上的缺点来认识自己。这个一个自我认识的简单方便的好方法。 |
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